This is the book I'm currently working through. It's actually making me feel better about the breakup of my marriage, because I'm seeing that I attracted a man who used me based on my own unhealthy state. I'm realizing that I went into the marriage uneven to begin with, and in a few years hope to be "sufficiently recovered" to attract better people into my life, whether those are potential marriage partners or just friends.. I'm working through many of the issues (I think) so I expect this whole experience will make me stronger than ever. You might like to check it out:
There's a newer version, but I'm using the old yellow one I bought off Thrift Books for one cent plus shipping.