Sunday, September 7, 2008

Daddy, Do You Love Me?

I saw a video of my niece today. She’s not autistic, but I felt compelled to write about her just the same. She was dancing seductively. Her parents had made a video and posted it on myspace, quite proud of their 10 year old.

What a shame.

It’s a shame that any father would be proud of setting his little girl up for lasciviousness and promiscuity. Yet I see it everywhere:

  • Several coworkers display pictures of their teenage daughters in “model poses” wearing bikinis. What do you want male coworkers to think of your little girl? What do *YOU* think when you see her seductive pose?
  • Even worse- the “strongly religious” parents (including some pastors), who push their daughters toward cheerleading and the whole homecoming/prom queen thing. I may be an Aspie, but even *I* know that cheerleadering goes hand-in-hand with being sexually used (and in some cases abused) by the football team. WHY would you want your holy little girls involved in this activity?
  • Or the ones who say they want their daughters to be “good girls” but then let them wear “come hither” clothing out on a date. Come on! Boys under 20 rarely are looking for anything but a good time. Do you really want your little girl to BE that good time?

Don’t they love their daughters? Don’t they care that they are setting their daughters up for pain and heartache? Doesn’t it bother them that young men are leering at their little princesses? Don’t they want to save their baby girls from being used and abused by 18 year olds who haven’t controlled their hormones yet?

Or did they use and abuse so many girls before they finally “settled down” that it’s really no big deal? Maybe they, like Lot (and several others in the Bible who offered up their daughters for sexual abuse by raving mobs), really don’t care about their little girls. I don’t think they do. And if they do care, I don’t think its love. No, I don’t think many of these daddies love their little girls.

I can see if it was just the mother. It’s not an excuse, but let’s be real: A daughter’s beauty is an extension of her mother’s. Many women attempt to recapture their youth through that of their daughter. Try to get their groove back, so to speak. I may not agree with it, but that’s how it appears to be.

Sigh. I don’t get it. Or, maybe I do get it, but I don’t understand how rational thinking people could be that way. How they throw their babies to the wolves. You know, people are always telling me I can see through “bad math.” Discovering AS has opened up my eyes to the fact that other people’s worlds aren’t black and white, but varying shades of gray.

But I just don’t operate that way. My “yea is yea” and my “nay is nay.” I wouldn’t tell my little girl it’s best to “wait for marriage” and then dress her in a way that suggests otherwise. And I certainly wouldn’t be proud of her for choosing to display herself in a lascivious manner.

Perhaps some of you men out there can enlighten me… savedaspie at gmail dot com

Friday, September 5, 2008

Great Quote

This was someone's sig on an Aspie group I belong to:

It's too big a world to be in competition with everyone. The only
person who I have to be better than is myself. ~Colonel Potter M*A*S*H

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

The Saved Aspie Has a Blog

Hello World.

I'm looking forward to this blog, but scared at the same time. I wonder if anyone will read it. I wonder if it will be of use to other Saved Aspies. I wonder if it will help anyone. I wonder if I'll keep it going, or if it will fall by the wayside like so many "social" projects Aspies begin.

We'll see.